Bare Minimum

Beware of those who only do the bare minimum.


Their heart isn't in it.
They'll do just enough to say,
"See? I did... something."
And sometimes they'll even say,
"It's the thought that counts."

But there's a difference between someone who gives you a bouquet made up of your favorite flowers, thought out, personalized, full of intention, and someone who just grabs the cheapest, pre-made arrangement off the shelf because it was convenient.

In relationships, you deserve love that goes above and beyond.
A love that considers you.
A love that wants to do things, big or small, that actually brighten your day.
Not love that's checking boxes just to say,
"I did it. I gave you something."

Behind that bare-minimum effort is usually obligation, not genuine care.

Real care sounds like:
"I thought of you. I thought about how this would make you feel. I know it'll bring you joy. And from my heart to yours, this is for you. Not because you asked. Not because I have to. But because it makes me happy just to make you happy."

That's love.
That's the kind of Thought, that counts.

And it doesn't always have to be about money.
Not everyone has the means to go all out, all the time,
And that's fine.
What matters is the intention.

Somebody might cook you a homemade meal instead of taking you out.
But if you love food, and they poured themselves into making it for you,
If it came from the heart,
That's a gift that means something.
That's what real consideration looks like.

Meanwhile, another person with plenty of money might take you to a fancy restaurant.
But it's their favorite place, not yours.
They know you don't even like the food there.
So who was it really about?
Them.
Not you.

And yet they'll say,
"I still paid for it. You should be grateful."

That's not care. That's obligation.
The money doesn't mean anything. They can afford to spend it.
They still failed to consider you.
That's still the bare minimum.

The same kind of person who does the bare minimum is the same kind of person who refers to their 20 years of marriage as time served.

When something comes from the heart, it goes beyond "just enough."
It always does.

And this doesn't just apply to relationships. It's the same in work, in careers, in life.

We all know those people at work who only do the bare minimum. They don't want to be there. They don't care about the job. They're just showing up for the paycheck. And because there's no love, no passion, no purpose tied to what they're doing, everything feels like pulling teeth. They're not growing. They're not contributing anything real. They're just occupying space and waiting for the day to end.

And eventually? They burn out.
Because when your heart isn't in something, you can't sustain it.
Energy goes out, but nothing comes back in.

That's why you have to do the things that bring you joy.
That fill you up.
That feed your spirit.
The things you can't, Not do.

If you can't not sing,
Sing
If you can't not dance,
Dance
If you can't not create,
Create

And when it comes to relationships,
if your heart isn't open to love,
maybe you shouldn't be in a relationship.
If all you can give is the bare minimum,
maybe you're not ready.
Maybe you should focus on strengthening the love you have for yourself.

And if you're with someone who only gives the bare minimum,
please remember:
You are worth more.
And you deserve more.
Don't ever settle.

Because the moment you settle for "just enough,"
that's exactly what you'll keep getting.

People forget that they're the ones who set the bar.
You set the standard for others to meet.
And if a person doesn't meet that standard,
you have the choice not to lower it.
You have the choice,
not to settle.

So recognize who you are.
Recognize your worth.
And don't accept less than what you truly deserve.

My name is Saipher Zureti. I am a visual artist and writer. All of the calligraphy in my essays is my original artwork, created specifically for the writing it accompanies.

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